Today's Topic: What other people think of you is none of your business. I think I first heard it from Byron Katie, but this statement or some variation is all over the place in the personal development world for good reason. I was exploring this with a client this week. How much time can we spend (waste) as human beings worrying about what other people think or worrying if we did the right thing?
Those kinds of noodlings your brain can get going on can really stress you out and derail you from your purpose. The focus on the opinions of others keeps you from being located in creating what you want to create. What I call your SMALL, or what is sometimes referred to as monkey mind can obsess on that concern like crazy. It derails you and gets you focused on stuff that isn't what you want to be focused on.
I hammer all the time on what you focus on gets bigger. If you let yourself go down the path of being concerned about what others think of you, you are not focused on what you want to be creating. That is when you get off the path of creating what YOU want to create. What other people think of you is none of your business because it has nothing to do with you. You have got to get that every single one of us is focused on us. If someone doesn't like you or doesn't like what you do or doesn't appreciate what you do that is about them, it has nothing to do with you. If you can keep that in mind, it will serve you. It will help you keep focused on what you are creating.
When you are in integrity with yourself, it doesn't matter what other people think. You know what that is about. You know how to be in integrity with yourself. You know that what you are doing is in line with how you want to show up. When you do something that is not in line with that, you can be powerful & clean it up with people. When you are in integrity, you don't need to worry what other people think of you. Remember, it is none of your business.
It's not just me...